I recently had a conversation with my friends about having a list when choosing a I had this conversation, I began to realize that God put a list out there as well. mate. Well I have five things I look for and I am pretty sure plenty of females would agree with me. Now you know I have to include my daddy God in the diary. After So I started doing research to see if I was going the right path. Ladies you will not believe it!!!! You may think this girl is preaching, but seriously we should never settle. So here it goes.
1. God Fearing- If a guy does not have a relationship with God,please tell me how it is going to work. A family that prays together stays together.
verse: Matthew 6:33
-“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
2.Stay away from Mama’s Boys!!! (Run)
A man should have a good relationship with his mother but when you are in a relationship the man’s mother should not be included. Ladies, you know exactly what I am talking about. If he is still breast feeding, please run. God will send you a real man.
Verse: Ephesians 5:31
“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
-Note that the Apostle Paul did not mention that the man should bring his mother along.
Ok, I know we are in a recession and people are losing their jobs. Looking for a job is a 9-5 by itself. So men no excuse. I am very independent and I can take care of myself but that does not mean I am going to take care of you. Women were created to be a help mate. So what if she makes more money,you have to work , provide and protect.
Verse: Genesis 2:15
“15And the LORD God took the MAN, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.”
Ladies,Jesus was a carpenter.
4) Good Looking
Everyone has their own opinion on what they considered good looking. I am strong believer that I have to be physically attracted to the person. It was hard for me to find a verse for this one. Than I remembered when God choose a King for Israel,His chosen people, the man was very attracted. So why settle for an unattractive man? Who cares if there is a shortage and most of them are gay.
Verse: 1 Samuel 9:2
“And he had a son, whose name was Saul, a choice young man, and a goodly: and there was not among the children of Israel a goodlier person than he: from his shoulders and upward he was higher than any of the people”
5) No Kids
This is a tough one. My friends really disagree with me on this. I do not want to be a stepmother. Some females do not mind; but I do. I want to be able to share that experience with my future husband. It will be my first and the child will be his second? I don’t know how I fell about that.
Bible promotes complete abstinence before marriage. If you abstain you can’t say ” I made a mistake” or “I would do things differently”
Verse: Hebrews 13:4
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled……”
Now there are some other things that I look for but I couldn’t find a verse.